On Your Own Terms

Last Friday was a great day of auditions.   One was brief, a running spot for a shoe company, which was being held at a location in Manhattan Beach.   It was literally across the street from where my girlfriend and I had enjoyed dinner and played the Abraham-Hicks “money in my pocket” game less than a week before after which I began to see evidence of money flowing to me almost  immediately.   But this, I’m sure, being brought back to that very spot, this was just a coincidence.

The other audition was across town in North Hollywood, which gave me plenty of time to charge myself up with an Abraham-Hicks “rampage of appreciation” along the way.   I had already had a ton of fun playing with the audition material the night before, and was going in to play some more.   Armed with Coach Mike’s very comprehensive training, I knew, before I could have a seat in the waiting room, that I must say hello to three different people.   I managed to do it, even though the room was filled with people not speaking to each other.

You could hear a pin drop.   It was just as he had described, and as I had recalled- no one was speaking with anyone.   Some looked at their sides, studying them or pretending to study them intently, others were buried in the surely life-crucial information being relayed to them via their phones.   I gravitated to the one person who was doing neither.   He was simply waiting.

We struck up a conversation immediately, and as he shared specific instructions from the casting director he had acquired earlier, I could feel the relaxed, open energy flowing between us that was precisely the reason Coach Mike had developed the “say hello to three people” rule.   I began to notice how our energy differed with the others in the room- in the others there was tension, frustration, stress.   One guy was mad at the world because he had worn the wrong clothes to the audition, despite simple and clear instructions.   I found myself thankful for the training and the circumstances which had led me to attracting it, if only so that I could be fully relaxed and on-point throughout the whole experience.

My new friend and I decided on our own to pair up for the audition, and then to go next- the casting director had been a bit vague on this, so we together decided to take the initiative.   It went well.   And the rest, as they say, is out of our hands.

What I took from this was that I am in the right place, at the right time, with the right knowledge.   I can always refine further, go further, and I shall, but I am even now living the life I want to live.   Some people hate auditioning, and want to skip through the process altogether.   But how can you get to a place of doing what you love through the energy/ mindset of doing something you hate?   They are different paths.   Being on the path of doing what you hate only  serves you in revealing, in as much clarity as you will allow, the better path for you to get yourself on instead.   I know whether I book this job or that one or the other one- or all of them, that living my life on my own terms is the most meaningful and magnificent reward I could receive, and it just so happens that the path of doing what I love- including auditioning- pays really well.

I was also blessed this week with a visit from my best friend of 24 years, who was in town to pay his final respects to his grandfather, who has now passed.   My friend and I couldn’t help but notice how we take stock of our own lives when the death of a family member comes, how we search within ourselves to find what we need to accept their leaving us.   We are forced to connect, if only for the briefest of moments, with the inevitability of our own physical mortality.

My friend and I had lots of time to explore what a rich experience his grandfather had carved out for himself, doing what fulfilled him and brought him the most happiness.   He had also attracted to him wives and friends and family that allowed and supported and appreciated him for all that he was, rather than criticizing him for not fitting the typical mold.   As my friend described him and his life, I could not help but feel a kinship for this man, whom I’d only met once, back in my high school days.   I remember distinctly that there was a sparkle in his eyes, and while I couldn’t clearly place it at the time, he had the calm, happy demeanor of a man who was living a blessed life, and KNEW IT.   His passing was quick, but left enough time to bring the family together to say their goodbyes.   After a weekend of this, my friend was ready to celebrate life.

And so we did.   My girlfriend, her sister, my friend and I had a fantastic night of silly fun together singing, bowling, dancing, telling stories, and laughing until our sides were splitting and our faces were sore from smiling.   We had created a place of total acceptance and appreciation for one another that allowed us all to genuinely express the delicious idiosyncrasies that make us each so unique- without judgments, without diminishments.

So the question I pose to you, dear friends, in living your life in the pursuit of your dreams, are you surrounding yourself with people who support or diminish your most authentic self, the greatest, freest, most expansive version of you?   Are you surrounding yourself with thoughts ideas, and actions that support this grand vision of you, or diminish it?