“A ship in a harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”
One of my favorite spiritual sayings is “let go and trust.” There’s something so simple in this phrase and yet so amazingly powerful within it, that if we were to understand and embrace it fully in its deepest sense, our lives would begin to line up for us in almost magical ways. This has certainly been the case for me recently.
Our natural tendency, when we find ourselves in a new home, new city, new job, or sometimes even a new relationship, is to begin to set down roots. We drop anchor, and we allow ourselves to view our situation as the place we will now be. Even if we don’t come to this conclusion initially, it is never long before we find ourselves quite comfortable with staying where we are, and very uncomfortable with the idea of having to leave that place of perceived comfort-even if it’s not really all that comfortable at all. But if our situation does not allow for the frequent expansive changes that are coming and will continue to come, we do ourselves a disservice in settling anywhere.
And cognitively, we know this – “you should never settle for less” – but how many of us live by this credo – no matter what? If we are really honest with how we feel about where we are, how many of us are settling for lives that are only pieces of what we most want?
When we are in an unstable environment or relationship, getting stabilized is always the first order of business. The challenge is in staying comfortable for too long. We want to drop anchor and settle in. And soon we often find our boat has been nestled in the harbor for much longer than we had ever intended.
Our sense of adventure, our love of variety, our growth all depend on new challenges. And since life itself is change, the more adaptable we become, the easier it is for us to weather these changes – no matter what may come. Just as any sailor must let the wind fill their sails, we too must learn to let go and trust that all is well, and all will work out for us.
In the past year, I’ve been described as a nomad, and I can’t argue with the assessment. I’ve enjoyed the spontaneity and the excitement and the adaptations I’ve had to make along the way – and no matter where I stand, or whom I’m with, I’ve been learning to let go and trust everything is unfolding perfectly. And I’ve been able to find comfort wherever I go.
In the last few weeks, I’ve been developing the habit of living as if all that I want has come to pass; living in that space as much as possible. And I’m finding that the more I hold onto where I physically am, the more challenging it is to fully embrace where I am going. I have, in a sense, anchored myself to the physical, familiar trappings of my current reality. So now, I am actively choosing to cut loose that anchor, and let go and trust the Universe even further than before.
It’s the letting go that is so hard for us. No one wants to let go. No one wants to give up control. It’s seemingly against everything we’ve been trained to believe – never give up! Never surrender! Never give up on your dreams!
We associate any ‘giving up’ as being some kind of failure – some kind of statement that we are not good enough – some kind of lazy decision to live life on the couch, watching TV and hoarding our possessions, and relinquishing our dreams because we don’t believe they’re possible. But this is not what it means to let go and trust. Not even a little bit.
It means, at its simplest, letting go of the mindset, letting go of the habits, letting go of the limiting belief that you and you alone must push and struggle and fight against the odds to carve yourself a path to your dreams. It means letting go of what does not serve you.
Trusting is the biggest challenge for most people, but it is absolutely vital. And while we may have difficulty in trusting other humans, we can trust the Infinite Intelligence. We can trust that even the most genius single mind cannot hope to compare with the omnipresence of Source. In fact, most of our world’s greatest scientific minds, including Tesla and Einstein, have acknowledged both the ‘universal core’ from which we obtain knowledge, strength, and inspiration, and the higher value of imagination and intuition over logic and rationality.
Trusting is about having faith: faith in the benevolent nature of the Universe; faith that all that we want is indeed possible; faith in ourselves.
In further refining and developing the details of the life we wish to attract and the conditions we wish to be living, there is an awareness of two points along the path – where we are, and where we want to be. Unless we are precisely where we most want to be, the awareness of the two separate places is what is keeping that gap between them sustained.
And in the same sense that every subject is really two subjects, what we want and the lack of what we want, this awareness of what’s here and what’s over there keeps our focus split, trying to be in two places at once. And the split focus is split energy – thought energy – that is expanding each “locale” whenever we give our thought to it. So it slows our progression to the destination point.
The more we can give our fullest attention to living how we want to be living – and most importantly, feeling all we can imagine feeling while being where we most want to be, the more the gap closes. From here to There becomes simply, Here.
To some, this may sound entirely like living in a fantasy world. I’m sure they said the same to Tesla, the Wright brothers, Thomas Edison, and Steve Jobs. I’m sure they said the same thing to every person who had the courage to live in that imaginary place within themselves and make it so real, that the rest of humanity could point fingers at them and call them crazy, while sitting complacently upon the benefits of all the magnificent creations these visionaries brought into our collective reality.
I know which group I’d rather be in.
So in this time of my own spiritual awakening and development I find that nothing speaks to the depths of one’s trust than the degree to which you willingly let go. How much am I willing to let go of the need to control the uncontrollable? Can I let go of the struggle? Can I let go of the need to be right? Can I let go of the flawed, narrow, fear-based perspectives about this world, this life, and what is truly possible for all of us?
We can say we trust, whether in another person, or in the Universe and its ability to bring to you all the cooperative components of the life you seek, but the evidence that we trust is in how much we are willing to let go.
And on that note, I leave you with a poem by Christopher Logue.
Come to the edge.
No, we are afraid!
Come to the edge.
No, we will fall!
Come to the edge!
And they came,
And he pushed them.
And they flew.